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Hello and welcome to the clarinet ninja
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We're coming up on an anniversary for
me. It's a big one. It's probably the
most powerful uh day or two of the year
for me. You know, we all have ways that
we mark our year. A lot of them are
religious. A lot of them are holidays. A
lot of them are birthdays,
anniversaries, times we specifically
remember and value things that aren't
present in our life every day. And I
think that that's a wonderful and
beautiful thing. And so many of those
things shape who we are and how we are.
They change us. Every year in June, I
start to think about changing.
How have I changed since last June? How
have I changed since June 22 years ago?
The thing that I always come to is that
I can certainly
decide to make a change in my life. That
happens. But what I really recognize is
the changes that happen in my life are
most often
provoked by what I would consider an
uninvited guest, a challenge,
uh, a situation that I actually didn't
want for myself. And in dealing with a
situation that I didn't want, I learn
who I am. I learn how I am. I learn what
matters to me. And I then can take those
skills and that version of who I am and
embark on the rest of my life and the
rest of my intentional changes, being
true to myself, knowing clearly who I
am. I believe this is something that has
happened to most adult people. And I
want to inspire you uh through this
podcast today to investigate those
things uh for yourself, whatever they
are, because I'm sure you've had them.
We all have. And uh I want to share mine
with you today. And thank you for being
so generous as to giving me the
opportunity to do so. Change, just
fundamentally speaking, how I see it,
how I look at it, is that change is
inherently discomforting. It's
disruptive. It's uncomfortable. That's
something that we can't really avoid.
For me, I find that one of the things
that gives me the most displeasure is
believing that I can avoid that
discomfort and being disappointed when
that turns out every single time not to
be true. It is only when I actually get
to the point where I where I'm there,
I'm facing this thing because I have no
other choice that I can recognize that
historically this has become a primary
agent of change for me. in that I can
find the confidence, the patience to
realize that this is how I'm going to
become who I am and refine this version
of myself that I've got to tell you I'm
pretty proud of. And I want the version
of you to be something you're proud of,
too. I think that that's something that
we all deserve. And I think that that
comes from facing unwanted challenges,
these unwanted visitors, uninvited
guests in our life. In order for me to
tell my story, I've got to go back to
June 11th, 2003.
As I record this, it is June 10th, 2025.
So, it was quite a while ago. Here's
what happened. I was sitting playing
show the producers. That was my job. I
was doing my best. And I was sitting
there and I had some weird issues with
my vision. Strange.
I felt fine except for these weird sort
of flashes. And I thought to myself,
being kind of a dummy, you know, if
there's a problem tomorrow, I'll
investigate further. And fortunately,
Thursday, June 12th, there was no
problem. But omg, on June 13th, Friday,
2003,
uh there were some real problems. And
here's what happened. I was sitting on
my couch at about 3:00 in the afternoon
in my bathrobe eating a bowl of Cheerios
and my friend Vance Bogard called me and
he was mad and he was mad because I was
supposed to be at rehearsal and it
wasn't like a gig rehearsal. It was a
rehearsal with friends and it was a
small group and uh I was not there. That
has become the time when I see hands and
I say, "Hey, you remember the day that I
had blood clots in my brain and you
yelled at me?" More on that later. Uh,
but in any case, uh, I what I needed to
do was go down to the producers, pick up
my instrument, that was on 44th Street,
go down to 48th Street, go up, I
suppose, to 48th Street and to the where
where the Musicians Union building is
and go to rehearsal.
So, I got myself off the couch. Oh my
god, what's going on? I took a shower. I
went down to rehearsal, found my
instrument,
and on my way to 48th Street, I turned
on 46th Street. a little confused. I
then realized, wait a minute, I'm on
46th Street, but the union is on 48th
Street.
Found my way to rehearsal, played
rehearsal. A little uncomfortable
because it appeared I was just
completely flaking out. Any case, uh we
went out to dinner before going to work.
And uh I remember sitting eating a
falafel and I was sitting at the table
and I was so dizzy. It was as if my body
was trying to throw me off of the chair
onto the floor and I had to prevent that
from holding onto the table. That is how
terrible I felt. So being a dummy, what
I did was
play that show. I went to work and
played the producers that night and then
two more times on Saturday and one more
time on Sunday. And then with much
prompting from from my mother who told
me to take aspirin all weekend, which I
did, that is probably the reason I'm
still alive. I went to the doctor on
Tuesday. He checked me out and said, "As
far as I'm concerned, you're fit for
duty. But given what you've told me, you
should go to a neurologist today." So, I
left the doctor, went to the office
where my wife at the time worked, and
made some phone calls to try and get a
hold of a neurologist who could see me
that day. The answers I got were
stunning. Says something about our
system. Uh I said my my primary
physician said I should see a
neurologist today. Bear in mind this is
18th 19th of June, the middle of June
sometime. And uh the responses were well
we got something. We have an appointment
in October. Are you available then? I
got that a number of times. And what I
learned from this is ultimately if a
doctor says you need to go see another
doctor today, what you should do is ask
for help from their office to make that
appointment because sometimes doctor's
offices don't take you that seriously if
you call and you just tell them a story
even if that story is true. So
eventually I did get to that neurologist
and it was Thursday that week and they
scheduled an MRI for the next week.
Following that MRI, I went back to the
neurologist's office and he said, "What
hospital would you like to go to? You
have blood clots in your brain." I said,
"Oh,
I'd like to go to Columbia
Presbyterian." So, I strolled across the
park like an idiot, got on the train,
went up, got some clothes, got some
stuff, and went to the emergency room uh
where I had to be checked in through at
Columbia Presbyterian Hospital in
Washington Heights, Manhattan. I was in
the hospital for about four or five
days. Uh they did a test again to make
sure that I had these blood clots in my
brain and they did indeed find blood
clots in my brain. The fortunate part of
all this is that I didn't lose any
vision. I didn't lose any small motor
function. I didn't die. These were all
very realistic possibilities. They kept
my INR down so my blood wouldn't clot.
and uh they got me on medication so that
that could be managed at home and I went
back to work and everything to a certain
degree went back to normal except for
that thing that happens when you're in
that situation. And and those of you
that have had acute problems like this
will recognize what happens is you make
you make deals with yourself about
finding your best self and being your
best self and and all the things that
you regret. And if you were to have died
today, what is it that you would regret?
And why is it that you would regret it?
And darn it, you're not going to live
like that. You talk to God and you you
try and make amends and you try and and
make deals to say things are going to be
different. If I'm given another chance,
gosh darn it, things are going to be
different. And to a certain degree, for
a short while, they are. But that flash
that counts recedes over the course of
time, but there's a little bit of that
light left inside. And that light shines
intensely bright at certain times. and
you can always find it if you're looking
for it, but it doesn't always reveal
itself in the way that it did in the
first couple weeks after that acute
incident. So, following that incident so
many years ago, lots of things have
happened.
Couple years later, there is a divorce.
Some time spent soulsearching, I found a
very good version of myself, one that I
was very, very proud of, and I fell in
love. And I thought that that was the
world rewarding me for the work that I'd
done. I got married again. My dad passed
away. We had a child. There was a
pandemic. I don't know if you've heard
of that one. And uh then I was told I
was going to be getting divorced. And
then my mom uh became terminally ill.
And then I started the clarinet ninja
dojo. Now when I look at those things,
there's only two of those things that I
actively had a role in creating
and that was the creation and birth of
my child. I had much more to do with the
creation than the birth as you would
imagine although I was present. Also the
starting of my online program that I'm
very proud of and means so much to me.
Here's the thing. The parenting that I
do and the teaching that I do represent
the most precious parts of myself to me
and those things were honed by the
uninvited guests, the uninvited
challenges that forced me into places
that I was incredibly uncomfortable and
did not want to be and would have never
chosen for myself. that created change.
And that's a hard thought change. And I
know every grown-up in the world knows
exactly what I'm talking about because
we have been forced into those
situations because you can't avoid it if
you are a grown-up person anywhere in
the world. And the degree to which those
things are unwanted, the magnitude of
those things are significantly
different. And I I'll be the first to
say I got off pretty lucky uh in terms
of the significance of those uninvited
guests, those those things that are
unwanted. Uh I know people that have
that have been through bigger things,
harder things. Does that impact the
refinement they get in themselves? Who
am I to judge sometimes? I guess maybe
not. I don't know. Everyone's different.
I want to look at how this has something
to do with the clarinet, right? This is
the clarinet ninja podcast, right? So,
let's get to this.
Let's get to how this has something to
do with the clarinet.
And the first thing we're going to do is
we are going to take out any part of
this conversation being around the
clarinet itself. The instrument, the
literal instrument, the mouthpiece, the
read, the liature, all of that is not
what we're talking about today. We're
talking about systems that I would
consider internal or our self, right?
Our air, which includes amateur,
voicing, composition, that kind of
thing. our fingers and our articulation,
our tonging. So that involves our
tongue. So we've got three systems that
are going, that's what brings our
instruments to life. And here's the
thing that I want to I want to talk
about today
is that we can't actually work on and
improve one of these systems without
impacting the other two.
because well they happen at the same
time they are separate from one another
but they still impact one another right
so each one of these systems when you're
focused on tonging that will impact your
sound that will impact your fingers
and that's an uninvited guest in those
other two systems and they all work like
that but here's the thing just like
having blood clots in your brain that
forces you into a situation where We're
examining things from a different
perspective. And it's that examination
from a different perspective that
actually allows any of those systems to
grow beyond what they would have if they
were left on their own. This sounds all
voodoo. It's not. Right? Because once we
figure out, hey, with our sound, when
I'm playing my most beautiful sound, I
also need my staccato notes to be a
short bit of that exact sound. that
helps us get our tongue in the right
place for good tonging and good
articulation. Our sound informs our
articulation and our tonging so that it
actually makes our tonging better,
right? And then we can find, you know,
when we're working on our sound, well,
where do we find our best tonging and
does that help or hinder us making our
best sound? You can look at it from both
directions. And that is one of the most
magical things about having this
uninvited guest of another system
infringing upon that like with our
fingers. We need to figure out, okay,
how is it that we can coordinate our
tongue and our fingers when we're
working on fast passages? Because that's
one of the secrets to having a really,
really clean articulation is having it
really aligned with your fingers. So, we
need to play rhythm with our tongue and
our fingers. Maybe we're having trouble
uh getting evenness in our fingers. But
what if we try and match it to our
tongue? So instead of just trying to
move our fingers in the abstract rhythm
that we're trying to play, we actually
move it along with the tactile feeling
of our tongue on the re.
That can take a situation that at first
is a very much unwelcome guest with an
unwelcome outcome of being uneven, not
aligned, sounding like trash to actually
giving us exactly what we need to solve
the problem. And it's there is so
closely aligned but so powerful that
when you look at the disruption, you
look at the discomfort and you recognize
that that is actually on a very very
deep level what leads to the
integration, the refinement, the more
better and more consistent playing that
you can do. That's really the the hard
one thing about learning an instrument,
right? is that we live with these
intrusions and we've got to deal with
them. And we do need to look at it and
recognize that this is actually the
greatest agent of change that we could
possibly want. Even though in its
initial stage, it's unwanted. It's an
intrusion. It's a challenge and it's
irritating. But it's essential for our
growth and the best version of oursel
that we want. And I like to think of
this finding our true center
emotionally maybe, but also like
literally in terms of how we play the
clarinet. It's also important to
recognize that a lot of these challenges
are prompted
externally
in that maybe your teacher
suggests that you play a challenging
piece and one that's a little bit
frightening that's got some passages
that you
can't quite play yet and you got to find
your way to them. Maybe you've had a
disappointing performance and it's
we've all had them and it doesn't feel
good. But you know what you get to do?
You get to learn from that. You get to
learn that either your preparation
wasn't what you thought it was or your
ability wasn't quite as good as you
anticipated. But there's no better way
to do that than put it to the test.
There's no way to figure that out
without actually going for it and doing
it. Let's put it this way. Your biggest
disappointment might be
believing that there's never going to be
an uninvited guest. There's never going
to be an unwanted challenge. There's
never going to be an intrusion
that's unwelcome cuz the bottom line is
they're going to be there again. Think
about your life. You know, when's the
last time you had a stretch of more than
a short period where everything goes
right?
Yeah. I don't know. For me, it it's not
that long. And if I just sit and
recognize, okay, that's an unrealistic
expectation and that's actually not even
what I want because how I find out who I
am, how I reveal myself to myself is
through facing these challenges. And
that's actually the thing, right? How is
it that you face the challenges? How is
it that you face these challenges in
your clan claim? What approach are you
taking? How do you respond to it? And
then it really builds the thing that is
the end of this and the thing that is
the most important life skill and it's
the most important skill in our clarinet
learning and that is resilience. And I
heard a thing the other day and it's
it's not cliche in the sense that at
least I haven't heard it before but I
loved it and I'm ripping it off and I
would give credit to the person that
said it but I don't remember who it was.
Uh they said your resilience
must be greater than the resistance
you're facing. The most important thing
is you develop this this resilience and
you're able to overcome the resistance
through actual things when it comes to
the planet. actual exercises, support
that can help you get over this. And
there's lots of ways to do it. One of
the ways to do it is to join the Clanet
Ninja Dojo. And that's something that I
can tell you all about. It's a community
that's supportive, kind. You get to see
other people face resistance,
employ resilience, and have the outcomes
that they want. And you can do it, too.
And you can be seen doing it. And you
can support others, and they support
you. And it's all done through an
incredible, if I might say so myself,
uh, version of traditional clarinet
learning framed in a way that is
specific to adults and not just adults,
but adults of today to get the support
that they need, to get the outcomes that
they want. We are all looking to play
the clarinet for a different reason and
perhaps in a slightly different way in
terms of the outcomes that we're looking
for. And good teaching will teach us how
to be the clan player that we want to be
and find the goals that we want. And if
you need help refining your goals, I the
Planet Ninja Dojo will do that, right?
What is it that you want to do? And how
are you going to get there? What
exercises are going to be the things
that get you over the roadblocks to get
you past these uninvited guests and to
actually take these uninvited guests,
these unwelcome challenges, and make
them actually the greatest learning
tools and a source of leverage in your
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